A Guide to Proper Communication
Proper communicating consists of two important components. The speaker and the listener are the two components of communication. Mindful speaking and listening are important in communication. Below we shall be considering mindful speaking.
Just like mindful listening, mindful speaking starts by dropping whatever we are doing and focus on what we want to say. You should speak with eye contact on the listener.
Make sure you clear your head of all assumptions.
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If you think that a listener knows something or not, it is good to clarify it with the listener first before making any assumptions. You speech will then be geared only to what is relevant to him and you will find communication to be easier. If you are a listener and you are unsure about something, you should clarify and verify it with the speaker first. If you keep on making assumptions, it is not a surprise that you will be misunderstood.
You need to pass through the triple filter test before you speak.
If you want to say something, make sure you have thought well about it. Socrates’ Triple Filter test is a good way to reflect on what you want to say. The first filter is truth. Is what you say true? If what you will say is not true, then you should not say it. Filtering to the second level is important even if you are only telling what is true.
The second filter is goodness. will it benefit the listener if he hears what you will say? If the things you will say will not be good or beneficial to the personal then better keep it to yourself. If the thing you will say is true and good, it still needs to pass the final test.
The third filter is appropriateness. Check whether it is the appropriate time, place, and person to say that things.
Passing the tripe filter test means that you have saying something true, good, and appropriate and you have not evil motive in doing so.
As you are speaking you should be mindful of a few tings.
If you are a mindful speaker then consider carefully the words you choose that is be appropriate and accurate. Make sure that tone is right for what you want to say. Your tone can be friendly, warm, or hostile. Is there any hint of criticism or judgment? Body language, gestures, and posture is something you should be mindful of too. If you want your listener to be receptive, then make sure that you speak in a friendly manner than being very harsh.
It may be difficult to be mindful of all these things but with constant practice it will become easier. If you want to transform your relationship in a positive way, then be mindful of how to speak to others.